Frequently Asked Questions
Health advisory - Coronavirus (2019-nCoV)
Please note that we are following the developments on this closely and will adhere to best practices as published on Singapore’s Ministry of Health website.
At present, we will request that all parties declare their risk status in terms of:
Travel to and from high-risk areas and/or potential exposure to the virus
Display of any symptoms indicating infection or feeling unwell
Our givers reserve the right to postpone or cancel a session as required, in order to maintain high standards of hygiene as well as ensure your safety, and ours.
How legitimate is this?
We are a non-commercial advocacy site dedicated to educating others and sharing the benefits of meditative sensual massage. Feel free to browse our educational/instructional articles and other thought-provoking content in our musings section.
From a legal point of view, workshops as well as MSM sessions fall under private activity arranged between indiviudals and do not need to be regulated by any third-party or government body.
We do list enthusiast (givers) here, however we are a loose collective and make no representation for each individual other than publishing any reviews they have received as per our process. Please do your own research as required.
Is this a commercial site?
This is a non-commercial advocacy site. It began as a passion project, and in line with the belief that one should share good things with others, we’d love for you to experience this yourself!
As such, our site’s focus will continue to be about publishing detailed and informative articles that allow anyone to learn from, and follow along (perhaps with your partner or significant other).
However, we do offer to share such experiences with others in a way that we feel is reasonable - reflecting both our passion for the art and also an appreciation for the time and effort spent honing our craft.
We do list enthusiast (givers) here, however we are a loose collective and make no representation for each individual other than publishing any reviews they have received as per our process. Please do your own research as required.
We are a movement and a (growing) community - of people who enjoy giving and receiving meditative sensual massages as part of a practice for mental and physical well-being.
How can I experience a meditative sensual massage?
Please note that while we do list enthusiast (givers) here, SMA is a non-commercial advocacy site and make no representation for each individual other than publishing any reviews they have received as per our process. Do your own research as required.
If you would like to experience a sensual massage from one of our listed enthusiast practitioners please click here for more information. If you want to learn how to do this firsthand, you may use the contact page to submit an enquiry or register for an upcoming workshop via our events page.
Regarding pricing - we do not regulate this, enthusiast practitioners could do this for free, or charge as a private arrangement between individuals.
How do you ensure quality control and compliance to your code of conduct?
As above, this is primarily a non-commercial advocacy site and we make no representation for each individual. Do your own research as required.
Notwithstanding, we do list several like-minded enthusiast practitioners (givers) that we feel abide by our ethos and beliefs. A starting point would be our code of conduct.
A longer article about Insights into the MSM Process elaborates on the processes in greater detail.
How long is a typical session?
A baseline MSM session would take an absolute minimum of 90 minutes. Usually, a session last for around 2+ hours, including briefing / consultation time, meditative sensual massage itself, and post-session cool down and debrief.
Sufficient time for an unhurried, relaxed exploration experience is required thus shorter sessions are not available.
Where is the session held?
Sessions can be held anywhere - a clean, quiet location with a queen or king sized bed is recommended.
Depending on the giver, outcalls to a location of your choice, a hotel room or other arrangements can be made as a private arrangement between individuals.
Special requests - are they entertained?
Special requests can be incorporated as part of a sensual massage - for example, bondage or dominance options could be discussed with your giver. Please indicate your preferences in our enquiry/consultation form on the contact page.
Is meditative sensual massage about sex?
The focus of a meditative sensual massage session is not about sex. It should be about a fresh approach to understanding and loving oneself; setting aside time to relax and re-center our mind; cultivating an open and non-judgmental attitude of exploration towards our mind, body and soul.
MSM can be spiritual, meaningful, connectional and more! Thus we do encourage first timers especially, to try to experience it in its purest form without complications or mental distractions about whether intimacy might occur.
Well, is there any sex involved (if I want it)?
This has evolved over time and the answer is nuanced. In general, if you do desire it, please indicate your preferences with your giver and it will be taken into account, however we cannot guarantee that intimacy will occur. For your peace of mind, there will be an open discussion on sexual health to ensure that safety is prioritized.
I'm interested but I've never tried this before & I am shy
It would be a shame to miss out on such a positive life experience, especially for new and/or shy persons. We recognize that this *may* be a little daunting for some - here's how your giver can help you to understand and overcome this fear:
1. Assurance of confidentiality - All correspondence to be held in the strictest confidence.
2. Assurance of acceptance & non-judgement - There is no shame in your body, desires or sexuality, there is no shame in what comes naturally - a part of what makes us 'human'. We all need to live authentically and true to ourselves. Givers do not subscribe to society's norms and do not judge or react negatively. This is not merely lip service but is an approach and a philosophy we strongly believe in.
3. Assurance of comfort/compatibility with giver - You may need to have some face time with your giver to feel comfortable, and in order for you to more fully trust & relax during planned sessions. As such a pre-consultation meeting for coffee / chat in a central public space could be helpful. Do discuss this with your giver should you feel the need to do so.
Can I / my partner learn how to do this?
Yes. Interested parties can request / discuss training sessions. We have conducted sessions before and we can put you on our mailing list should you wish to be notified of upcoming training/sharing sessions - a simplified 101 approach will be imparted with practical advice, tips and suggestions.
Sessions are hands-on so actual sensual massage will be carried out with explanations and breaks along the way for practice.
You may also enquire about custom one on one or small group training sessions.
I am passionate about this too! Can I be listed on your profiles page?
We are an enthusiast site and open to spreading the beauty and ethos of MSM.
If you feel aligned to what we share here, feel free to drop us a note on our contact page.
We are open to listing fellow enthusiasts in different countries and cities too. In the process of identifying the mechanics behind this.